June 18, 2013

Why do People Complain but Never Change

Posted by James

This is a bit of a touchy subject for some people, but I have noticed a very disturbing trend not only among the young but among older people as well, and a part of me wonders if this has simply been a problem ever since the dawn of time. People are so quick to complain about a situation but they never do anything to make it better.

So, why do people do this? Well, you could make a hundred theories as to the reasoning or mindset of these people. I believe a few reasons this could happen, and certainly there are many others, but these key points strike me as more common than most.

People are used to being babied and being able to cry and have someone else fix it.
They feel entitled by others, as if the other person owes it to them to fix their problem for them.
They become too emotional towards the situation to even consider a solution.
They simply feel trapped, like there is not a solution and they think that life sucks and there is nothing they can do.

The first thing you have to do to fix a problem is quit complaining
 and understand what needs to be done to actually fix it.

The easiest way to understand what the solution is would be to reflect upon yourself first. Think about the things you don't like or feel could be improved in your life. (Your marriage, your car, your job, ect.) You got where you are today by doing what you do now, so why do you think that you can keep doing those things and have anything change for you? What can you change about yourself to improve your life?

Everyone can improve themselves in someway. The greatest truth in the world is that no one is perfect, so why should we ever stop trying to improve ourselves as people?